How much is Good Girl Conditioning costing you?
| Take the Good Girl Conditioning Scorecard and find out exactly where socialised patterns are quietly shaping how you show up at work - whether you work for someone else or for yourself. |
Most women know something is getting in the way.
The people-pleasing. The perfectionism. The voice that says you’re not ready, not enough, not quite allowed to take up that much space.
But knowing it and understanding it are two different things.
The Good Girl Conditioning Scorecard measures 12 dimensions of conditioned behaviour - from self-doubt and fear, to boundaries, external validation, perfectionism, people-pleasing, and the Good Girl Double-Bind. In about 10 minutes, you’ll get a personalised breakdown of where conditioning is showing up most strongly for you, and what that means in practice.
A word of warning: some of these questions will be uncomfortable. That discomfort is information. Lean into it.
This isn’t about what’s wrong with you. It’s about what was done to you - and what’s possible when you start to undo it.
- It takes just 10 minutes - there are 78 questions
- It’s completely free
- Receive customised results instantly
- 585 women have already taken it
| Take the Scorecard - it’s free |
How much is Good Girl Conditioning costing you?
| Take the Good Girl Conditioning Scorecard and find out exactly where socialised patterns are quietly shaping how you show up at work - whether you work for someone else or for yourself. |
Most women know something is getting in the way.
The people-pleasing. The perfectionism. The voice that says you’re not ready, not enough, not quite allowed to take up that much space.
But knowing it and understanding it are two different things.
The Good Girl Conditioning Scorecard measures 12 dimensions of conditioned behaviour - from self-doubt and fear, to boundaries, external validation, perfectionism, people-pleasing, and the Good Girl Double-Bind. In about 10 minutes, you’ll get a personalised breakdown of where conditioning is showing up most strongly for you, and what that means in practice.
A word of warning: some of these questions will be uncomfortable. That discomfort is information. Lean into it.
This isn’t about what’s wrong with you. It’s about what was done to you - and what’s possible when you start to undo it.
- It takes just 10 minutes - there are 78 questions
- It’s completely free
- Receive customised results instantly
- 585 women have already taken it
| Take the Scorecard - it’s free |
What This Scorecard Measures
This doesn't score your worth. It shows how deeply you've been trained to be "good".
You’ll be assessed across key behaviours and beliefs that are classic symptoms of Good Girl Conditioning, things like:
- Good Girl Double-Bind: Be liked or be taken seriously. Pick one, and get punished either way.
- Exhaustion & Overwhelm: Work bleeding into everything, and your health picking up the bill.
- People Pleasing: Saying yes when you mean no, and editing yourself to keep everyone else comfortable.
- Perfectionism: Standards so high that nobody can meet them. Including you.
- Shoulds & Boundaries: Always positive, always available, always "fine".
- Self-Doubt & Self-Blame: Second-guessing your own judgement, and assuming it's your fault when things go wrong.
- External Validation: Needing someone else to say you're doing OK before you believe it.
- Fear: Of mistakes, of failure, of what happens if you speak up.
- Self-Sufficiency: Doing it all yourself, because asking for help feels like failing.
- Disempowerment: Interrupted, dismissed, talked over. And slowly learning to stay quiet.
- Overtrusting: Giving people the benefit of the doubt until it costs you.
- Internalised Misogyny: The conditioning turned on other women. Judging them harder than you'd ever judge a man.
The higher your score, the more your behaviour may be shaped by conditioning, not conscious choice.
And the good news is Conditioning can be deprogrammed.
This quiz is the first step toward doing exactly that.
Don’t just take our word for it, see what others have to say
“F*ck me, I wish I’d written this book. You’ll never be the same again after reading it. Big statement? That’s because this isn’t a book, it’s a new world order.”
Fiona Kearns
Business Psychologist
“I learnt so much about myself through the questions and concepts in this book, it's been very eye opening. Michelle is tackling such an important subject, with her characteristic good humour and pirate tactics.”
Alex Barker
Be More Pirate
"This book is a valuable eye-opener, shedding light on the subtle conditioning we might not have noticed before. The thought-provoking exercises throughout the book encourage introspection and self-awareness and hopefully will lead to change. I want to share this book with so many of my friends to help them on a transformative journey”
Dr Hannah Bryan
Clinical Psychologist and EMDR Consultant
“I’m no stranger to good girl programming, how could I not be when it provides a tried and tested structure for how to get on in life. The problem is, you can only get so far, and often lose yourself in the process anyway. Michelle has cast a spotlight on the very common and taken for granted ways women “behave” so as to not rock the boat, seem a threat or, perish the thought, come over as a selfish bitch. This often isn’t an easy read as it forces you to ask uncomfortable questions of yourself and society. However, I promise you the journey is worth it."
Paula Gardner
Psychotherapist and business psychologist, Scarlet Thinking
