How much is Good Girl Conditioning costing you?
Take the Good Girl Conditioning Scorecard and find out exactly where socialised patterns are quietly shaping how you show up at work. |
Most women know something is getting in the way.
The people-pleasing. The perfectionism. The voice that says you’re not ready, not enough, not quite allowed to take up that much space.
But knowing it and understanding it are two different things.
The Good Girl Conditioning Scorecard measures 12 dimensions of conditioned behaviour - from self-doubt and fear, to boundaries, external validation, perfectionism, people-pleasing, and the Good Girl Double-Bind. In under 15 minutes, you’ll get a personalised breakdown of where conditioning is showing up most strongly for you, and what that means in practice.
A word of warning: some of these questions will be uncomfortable. That discomfort is information. Lean into it.
This isn’t about what’s wrong with you. It’s about what was done to you - and what’s possible when you start to undo it.
- It takes just 10 minutes - there are 78 questions
- It’s completely free
- Receive customised results instantly
| Take the Scorecard - it’s free |
How much is Good Girl Conditioning costing you?
Take the Good Girl Conditioning Scorecard and find out exactly where socialised patterns are quietly shaping how you show up at work. |
Most women know something is getting in the way.
The people-pleasing. The perfectionism. The voice that says you’re not ready, not enough, not quite allowed to take up that much space.
But knowing it and understanding it are two different things.
The Good Girl Conditioning Scorecard measures 12 dimensions of conditioned behaviour - from self-doubt and fear, to boundaries, external validation, perfectionism, people-pleasing, and the Good Girl Double-Bind. In under 15 minutes, you’ll get a personalised breakdown of where conditioning is showing up most strongly for you, and what that means in practice.
A word of warning: some of these questions will be uncomfortable. That discomfort is information. Lean into it.
This isn’t about what’s wrong with you. It’s about what was done to you - and what’s possible when you start to undo it.
- It takes just 10 minutes - there are 78 questions
- It’s completely free
- Receive customised results instantly
| Take the Scorecard - it’s free |

What's the purpose of the quiz?

This isn’t just a bit of fun, it’s a wake-up call.
The Good Girl at Work Quiz was created to help you uncover the invisible rules you’ve been living by, the ones you never consciously agreed to, but have been following your whole life.
By answering a few powerful questions, you’ll start to see how workplace conditioning, people-pleasing, perfectionism, overfunctioning, has shaped your behaviour, beliefs, and voice.
This quiz is here to help you:
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Spot the patterns keeping you small
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Reconnect with your real voice and values
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Begin the journey of unlearning and unapologetically becoming yourself
Think of it as the first step in your deprogramming.
The moment you stop asking for permission - and start reclaiming your power.
Let’s get honest. Let’s get free.


What This Quiz Measures
This quiz doesn’t score your worth, it shines a light on how deeply you’ve been trained to be “good.”
You’ll be assessed across key behaviours and beliefs that are classic symptoms of Good Girl Conditioning, things like:
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People-Pleasing
Saying yes when you mean no. Avoiding conflict. Putting everyone else first — even when you’re drowning.
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Perfectionism & Overworking
Feeling like you have to earn your value through achievement. Over-preparing, over-delivering, never feeling “enough.”
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Silencing Your Voice
Holding back ideas in meetings. Not speaking up. Second-guessing your thoughts before they leave your mouth.
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Fear of Judgment
Worrying about what others think. Avoiding risk or visibility because you don’t want to be “too much” or get it wrong.
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Lack of Boundaries
Struggling to say no. Feeling guilty when you prioritise yourself. Always available, always accommodating, always tired.
The higher your score, the more your behaviour may be shaped by conditioning, not conscious choice.
And the good news?
Conditioning can be deprogrammed.
This quiz is the first step toward doing exactly that.

Overtrusting

Self-sufficiency

Internalised Misogyny

Self-Doubt & Self-Blame

Exhaustion and Overwhelm

Good Girl Double-Bind

Shoulds and Boundaries

External Validation

People Pleasing

Disempowerment

Fear

Perfectionism
Don’t just take our word for it, see what others have to say

“Reading this book feels like having a conversation with a hilarious and impossibly wise friend. This could be the most important book you and the women in your life read. It stops here, with us.”
Kate Hargreaves
CEO and Management Consultant, Mosaic Partners

“Wow. What a read… I feel seen. I feel heard… I'm ready to shake off the shackles of a good girl and be a rebel! Not your normal book. It's a must for your bookshelf!”
Nat Hunt
OD and Systems Lead

“F*ck me, I wish I’d written this book. You’ll never be the same again after reading it. Big statement? That’s because this isn’t a book, it’s a new world order.”
Fiona Kearns
Business Psychologist

“I learnt so much about myself through the questions and concepts in this book, it's been very eye opening. Michelle is tackling such an important subject, with her characteristic good humour and pirate tactics.”
Alex Barker
Be More Pirate

"I wish I’d had access to Good Girl Deprogramming thirty years ago. In the nineties we were assured women had equal opportunity. They didn’t, and they still don’t. The true potential of women is consistently withheld by societal norms and Michelle Minnikin helps readers see both the water they swim in and the myriad ways in which they’ve constrained themselves to appease and comply. Awareness is empowerment. Together we rise."
Cathryn Barnard
Managing Director, Working the Future

"This book is a valuable eye-opener, shedding light on the subtle conditioning we might not have noticed before. The thought-provoking exercises throughout the book encourage introspection and self-awareness and hopefully will lead to change. I want to share this book with so many of my friends to help them on a transformative journey”
Dr Hannah Bryan
Clinical Psychologist and EMDR Consultant

“I’m no stranger to good girl programming, how could I not be when it provides a tried and tested structure for how to get on in life. The problem is, you can only get so far, and often lose yourself in the process anyway. Michelle has cast a spotlight on the very common and taken for granted ways women “behave” so as to not rock the boat, seem a threat or, perish the thought, come over as a selfish bitch. This often isn’t an easy read as it forces you to ask uncomfortable questions of yourself and society. However, I promise you the journey is worth it."
Paula Gardner
Psychotherapist and business psychologist, Scarlet Thinking

"A cosmic collision of audacity and vulnerability. Michelle Minnikin dances through the pages with words that are both a battle a cry and a soul-soothing lullaby. Like a cup of strong espresso infused with the wisdom of a thousand moonlit nights. Her voice speaks directly to the wild heart within, daring us to reject conformity and embrace the kaleidoscope of our being. It's the kind of read that makes you want to put on a crown whilst kicking bullshit to the curb. This book says to me; It’s time to unleash your inner rebel and bask in your fierce, unapologetic glory……… I am so doing that!"
Dee Coxon
Author and Founder of Menocourse


